How do you self-love without being selfish?

Seems like every time something becomes a “buzz word” or trend, someone who doesn’t deserve to is misusing the phrase, thus devaluing it to their observers.

Here are 2 examples:

A dad talks about parental alienation and a dad who chooses to not see his kid jumps on the bandwagon for support.

A woman who was denied justice after being raped because of the way she was dressed gets support because she was being “slut shamed” and now some other woman wants to say she’s being slut-shamed when a man talks about her body when she walks down the street in booty shorts.

Not…the…same…thing.

And the same has happened with the “self-love” movement.

The self-love idea comes from those who constantly give of themselves to take care of others, but rarely tend to their own needs. Also, it’s for those who set aside their own needs and desires for some real or imagined idea that it provides for someone in their life.

A dad or mom who won’t pay $25 a month for a gym membership because they feel like it’s taking from their child.

The person at work who deserves a pay raise but won’t ask for it because the small business owner might feel taken advantage of.